“As a man, why don’t you want a daughter? And those who don’t, why would raising a daughter be harder than raising a son?”
I posed this question on twitter and facebook after seeing this tweet:
"If God ever gives me a daughter I swear I’ll fight him. I’m not about that raising a daughter life."
And often hearing men lament how they would rather not have daughters, or have the responsibility of raising a daughter. I believe some said in jest or sarcastically but what’s the root of this?
One man said on twitter:
"Daughters bring men a certain paranoia that sons don’t. I will never have to worry about my son getting pregnant, for one."
to which I responded: “but u don’t care abt him getting others pregnant. He can do that more expiditiously & more frequently than a girl can get preg”
"of course I care. But men more often take advantage of women than vice versa, so i’d feel more in control as a parent."
to which I responded: “Just admit it, you guys don’t want to deal with the possibility of having raised a harlot. I get it.”
"Raising a ho is a valid concern, though. All men are paranoid about their daughters. That’s just the way it works.”
On facebook one new father said:
“I wanted a son just to raise him & have the type of father son relationship I never had as a kid, but now that I have a daughter I’m completely in love with her it changed my life my beliefs & ideas about woman,kids, & being a parent it’s almost unexplainable in words but I’m happy to have a daughter but I think most guys believe it’s harder raising a daughter because of how complicated men feel women are & because we know how young men think & we don’t want to face the challenges of dealing with raising a daughter you tend to feel like with a son u just make him like yourself lol as silly as that sounds but hey that’s only my opinion.”
Raising boys and raising girls poses their own unique sets of challenges and I truly believe it’s fear that drives these opinions which is only natural. It’s crucial to remember that both the life of a girl and a boy are equally important and express that to them. We are different but equally capable beings.
Do you think raising a daughter is harder than raising a son? Have your opinions changed over time? Are we sending the message that a male’s life is more valuable than a female’s life with statements like these? Do you think men who say this may be a bit hypocritical because they don’t want their daughters to be like them but don’t mind if their sons are? Double-standard?