So on the subject of marriage.
I got into a lengthy discussion with a 40-year-old Venetian expat in Honduras. He said he has “kind of a girlfriend.” I laughed. Oh ok. Not my business. We agreed the modern notions of marriage are whacked and very strange. He said when some women get engaged, they act as if they won the lottery. With a winning lottery ticket they knowingly purchased themselves. It’s true. I see a lot of focus being put on “a ring.”
Just the ring.
A piece of metal.
Congratulations, you’re someone’s potential wife. You are now a complete human being. You’ve accomplished the be all and end all to our collective societal gender conditioning of things you must do before you’re worth a damn in this world.
It’s so reductive. And so unappealing. I blame Beyonce. And all of you.
This is a freakin life-long commitment. FOR LIFE. Your whole life. You’ll be married for longer than you’re not. Why are you rushing forever? My parent’s chimed in on this tirade to interject that it’s easier to find a life partner young because you can grow and build together, ain’t nobody trying to budge on their set ways when they’re in their 30s. It’s harder to compromise when you’re older. That made sense but I pointed out that’s not reason enough to put a time clock and rush marriage just as potential complications from a late 30s pregnancy isn’t reason enough to quickly get knocked up just for the sake of it. That would be stupid."